Practice Positive, Purposeful Discipline

Adrian H. Cline, Superintendent

August 12, 2003

 

With all the stress, pressure, and emotion that come with growing up, young people sometimes make errors in judgment, fail to take responsibility, or do things they regret.  When such situations occur, it is sometimes necessary for you to discipline your child to prevent inappropriate behavior from recurring.  Let us look at some of the principles behind the purpose of discipline:

§         You want your children to know what is and is not acceptable in society.

§         You want them to remember that in the future they will have to answer for their actions. 

§         You want them to understand the reason for discipline, but more importantly you want them to learn from the lesson. 

§         You want them to know that you love them and only want the best for them.

 

To make discipline align with these principles, use positive discipline.  This means involving your child in a task that not only lets him or her know he or she has misbehaved, but also one that has long-term benefits for both of you.

 

One way to do this is to have your child start a personal journal.  Request that he or she spend time alone writing.  Provide a specific outline by asking your child to include what the problem was, why it happened, and what could have been done to deliver a different outcome.  Let your child know that you will review the writing.

 

Through this technique, your child may learn anger management, responsibility, self-confidence, creativity, and problem solving.  You will derive the benefit of seeing your child brush up on writing, spelling, and language skills, and you will also gain insights into your child’s thinking so that you can strengthen your relationship with him or her.

 

 

 

How to Strengthen Your Child's Educational Well-Being

 

Many parents believe that education is solely the responsibility of schools and teachers.  What they often do not realize is that home life has a significant effect on children’s schooling and educational well-being.  Try these steps and watch what a difference your involvement can make in your child’s educational welfare:

 

1.      Show concern.  Begin by talking to your child after school.  Ask questions about how the day was.  Were there any problems?  What types of activities did he or she participate in?  It is important to let your child know that his or her educational experience matters to you.

2.      Monitor your child’s schoolwork.  Ask to see your child’s agenda.  What type of homework does he or she have?  Is he or she having difficulty in any subject?  What activities are coming up?

3.      Maintain consistency.  Maintaining a routine at home and at school is vital to healthy development.  Have set bed times.  Monitor television.  Organize activities that provide physical exercise.  Serve well-balanced, nutritional meals, and be consistent in discipline and expectations.

 

The Office of Adrian H. Cline, Superintendent of Schools, is open from 7:00 a.m. – 5:30 p.m. Monday – Friday.  You are invited to visit the district web site at: www.desotoschools.com.